It Takes One to Tango: How I Rescued My Marriage with (Almost) No Help from My Spouseand How You Can, Too

With A Focus On Self-Empowerment And Resilience, This Refreshing And Witty Relationship Guide Has A Reassuring Counterintuitive Message For Unhappy Spouses: You Only Need One Partner To Initiate Far-Reaching Positive Change In A Marriage.Conventional Wisdom Says That It Takes Two To Turn A Troubled Marriage Around And That Both Partners Must Have A Shared Commitment To Change. So When Couples CanT Agree On How-Or Whether-To Make Their Marriage Better, Many Give Up Or Settle For A Less-Than-Satisfying Marriage (Or Think The Only Way Out Is Divorce). Fortunately, There Is An Alternative. What Distinguishes ReillyS Book Is That She Says A Warring Couple DonT Have To Agree On The Goal Of Staying Together; It Takes One Person Changing, Not Both, To Make A Marriage Work (The New York Times). Marriage And Family Therapist Winifred Reilly Has This Message For Struggling Partners: Take The Lead. Doing So Is Effective-And Powerful. Through ReillyS Own Story Of Reclaiming Her Now Nearly Forty-Year Marriage, Along With Anecdotes From Many Clients SheS Worked With, YouLl Learn How To: -Focus On Your Own Behaviors And Change Them In Ways That Make You Feel Good About Yourself And Your Marriage -Take A Firm Stand For What Truly Matters To You Without Arguing, Cajoling, Or Resorting To Threats -Identify The Big Picture Issues At The Basis Of Your Repetitive Fights-And Learn How To Unhook From Them -Be Less Reactive, Especially In The Face Of Your SpouseS Provocations -Develop The Strength And Stamina To Be The Sole Agent Of Change Combining Psychological Theory, Practical Advice, And Personal Narrative, It Takes One To Tango Is A Wise And Uplifting (Dr. Ellyn Bader, Director Of The Couples Institute) Guide That Will Empower Those Who Choose To Take A Bold, Proactive Approach To Creating A Loving And Lasting Marriage.